The true reason why we have not had children, even though we are fast approaching 31 and 35: my husband has cleidocranial dysplasia. This is a dominant bone disorder that can cause severe difficulties in any person that has it. My husband himself has gone through nearly a dozen surgeries and the accompanying pain, near death experiences and physical therapy. He has a "mild" case.
While I did not live through any of his pain (he had all of his surgeries, with an exception of two that are yet to come before we met) neither of us wants to see our children go through what he has gone through.
We both want children. We both know that's the last missing piece of our happy little lives, and I feel the pain particularly.
Thank goodness, there are options. There are also drawbacks to each option. Having examined them all, I feel such resentment sometimes toward those who can just have sex for a while and *boop* there's a pregnant woman!
Right now, finally, we have agreed that we can explore these options together. We have the money, to support and care for a child without struggling, which is what we wanted most.
Now. Shall we have donors? Shall we do Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD)? Should we adopt and risk a mother wanting to take the baby back?
We just don't know yet.
